Dating a married man is NEVER EVER a good idea, even if you spot signs he likes you but is hiding it.

Most of the time, when a married man pursues you or flirts with you, he just wants to use you. Most married men never leave their wives, even if he can treat you better than all the guys you have dated.

Please note that these signs are not meant to give you the courage to make advances on a married man, but they are meant to make you aware so that you can keep your distance before you become emotionally attached to him.

Table of Contents

• Signs a married man likes you but is hiding it
• Married coworker crush signs
• How do you know if a married man hides his feelings for you?
• How do you know if a married man is into you?
• How do you know if a married man likes you more than a friend?
• Signs a married man cares for you
• Signs a married man is sexually attracted to you
• Signs a married man likes you through text

Signs a married man likes you but is hiding it

1. He checks up on you often

One of the signs a married man likes you but is hiding it is when he checks up on you often. If he is your colleague, he will come to your workstation and make small talk or always join you when you are on a tea break. He creates a reason to pass by where you are just so that he can have an excuse to see you. 

He will ask you for your personal numbers or find your numbers somehow so that he can call you and text you about work and other non-work-related things. 

Read more: 15 Signs a male coworker likes you but is hiding it

And when he does not see you at work, he might even text or call to check if you are fine. 

You will soon notice that you have that person who cares about you because not a long time passes without him reaching out to you. And because you get used to his attention, you will even begin to return the favor. 

You will begin to initiate contact as well when he does not check up on you. Just be careful when you reach the stage of feeling a void when he has not reached out to you. When you start to miss him, it can be a sign that you are falling for him. 

2. He wants to meet up with you alone

When a married man likes you, he will create an excuse to meet up with you. He will offer to buy you lunch just so that he can have alone time with you. If he sees you sitting alone, he may even leave his crew or drop everything he was doing so that he can spend time with you. 

And when he meets up with you, he will prefer if it is just the two of you, because three is a crowd. You will notice that if your friends or colleagues are part of the meeting, he won’t be as excited about the meeting. You will also notice that he never brings any of his crew along, it is just only him and you during your meetings.

3. He blushes

One of the body language signs of a man secretly in love with you is when he blushes. According to an article in Carta Anthropogeny, blushing in humans strongly correlates with emotional arousal.

So you will notice that his cheeks become reddish when talking to him. However, for a guy who is darker in complexion, it can be difficult to notice if the cheeks have turned red, but you can’t miss that blushing smile on his face.

4. He is jealous when he sees you flirting with other guys

If a married man sees you entertaining other guys or other men flirting with you, he will become jealous. When a man becomes jealous, it is a sign that he wants you to himself.

You will notice that he is jealous when he suddenly changes or gives you the silent treatment. He might also ask you questions about the guy or even imply that the other guy is your boyfriend.

He can even go to the extent of mentioning that the other guy is a player, while he is the biggest player since he is already married.

5. He downplays his marriage

Sometimes a married man will not even disclose that he is married and that is why you have to be on the lookout for signs that he is a married man. 

If you already know that he is married, he will try to act as if his wife does not exist, he will hardly talk about her in your presence. If you ask him about his wife, he will avoid the topic or tell you that things are bad or say that let’s rather not talk about her. 

He might even just remove his ring when he is with you so that you do not have to focus on the fact that he is married. Or he might even mention that if he met you years earlier, he would have married you.

It is important to know that married men are masters of lies, he will never tell you that he is happily married because if he is honest, you will not be interested in him. Read these signs that a married man is using you. 

6. He shows interest in your work and hobbies

Signs a married man likes you but is hiding it is when he shows interest in your work. If you are a writer like me, he will follow all your work. He will become your greatest supporter, he will buy all your materials, subscribe to your blog, read all your articles, and commend you on the well-written, informative articles that you publish. 

If he hears you talk at a meeting, he will tell you that you did well, that was a valid point that you raised. 

And him showing interest in your work will melt your heart and you will befriend him even more. But be careful, because this is a proven strategy that works when you want to win your target over. 

7. He is inquisitive about your love life

Another sign that a married man likes you but is hiding it is when he enquires about your love life. He will ask you if you have a boyfriend, if you stay together if you are happy, and all sorts of personal uncomfortable questions. 

And because he is married, you will not see it as a sign that he is attracted to you, you will think that he is just making conversation or just being a concerned brother. When a married man asks such questions, he wants to know if he stands a chance with you. He wants to know how hard he has to work in order to win you over and find out what you like in a guy. 

He may even just badmouth potential crushes so that other men won’t stand a chance with you. It is important to know that men are very selfish by nature. Although he already has someone, he wouldn’t want someone else to have you. 

8. He compliments you often

Another sign a married man likes you but is hiding it is when he compliments you more than any other person at your workplace. He will pay attention to you and even notice the slightest changes or details. He will tell you that you look nice in that dress, or your new hairstyle suits you very well. 

You will notice that he is always throwing compliments your way, even when it is not necessary. He will also compliment you on how smart and beautiful you are. He makes you feel beautiful, which boosts your self-esteem. 

9. He buys you gifts

A clear sign that a married man likes you is when he spends on you. He will offer to buy you lunch. Some married men can even offer to take care of your bigger expenses like paying for your car or rent. 

A married man will be interested in knowing when your birthday is coming so that he can shower you with gifts and love. That will definitely melt your heart because women love thoughtful gestures. 

(But know that this arrangement won’t be forever. After he has achieved their mission, which is satisfying his lustful desires, he will leave you and stop doing all these great things)

10. He gives you so much attention

A married man will give you attention when he is attracted to you. He will listen to you attentively and make the conversation about you, your desires, your fears, your family, etc. Once in a while, he will even mention something that you said a while ago in order with the intention to impress you. 

The kind of attention that he gives can make you even fall for him because there is no one who gives you the same level of attention.

Read more: 12 Signs a married man cares for you

11. He initiates physical touch

He will hug you when he meets you after not seeing you for some days. And he will also lean closer to you when talking to you. And pat your shoulder, or even accidentally touch you when laughing. 

He can ask to check out your nails just so that he has an excuse to hold your hands. He may even prefer to sit right next to you at a seating area so he can touch you with his legs. 

If he is touchy with you, it is one of the signs a married man likes you but is hiding it.

12. He comes to you for a second opinion

When he consults you before making decisions, it can be a sign a married man likes you but is hiding it. When he wants to buy something or do something he will first consult you.

He will ask for your opinion when he has to buy a gadget, or a new car, where he should invest his money, or what he can do for his mom’s birthday, etc. He makes you his trusted advisor and makes you believe that he really values your opinion. 

13. He is nervous around you

When a guy is attracted to you, he might be nervous around you. His heart might even beat very fast, have sweaty palms and he can even be fidgety. His hands and legs might even shake a bit. He might also fidget his chair meaning that he cannot sit still for too long

14. He stares at you a lot

When a guy is attracted to you, he won’t only stare at your face, he will also stare onto your chest area, as well as the lower part of the body. 

And he might even look at your lips which is a sign that he imagines himself kissing you.

Also, when you are walking across the room, you can sense that his eyes are following you, and he does not stop until you are out of sight.

15. He agrees to do you favors

If you ask him for any favor, he will do it. He will go out of his way to make you happy. If you need manpower or someone to drive you, he will make means.

Or if you need cash, he will gladly assist, but know that for him he sees it as an investment. He will get it back in kind when you lose your guard. Agreeing to do you favours is an opportunity for him to talk to you often. 

16. He asks you to run some errands for him

A married man who likes you can even ask you to run some errands for him. He can ask you to buy him lunch when he sees you going to the shops. Such gives him the chance to have more interactions with you. When you agree, it makes him feel good and raises his hopes that in the future you will also agree to other bigger things like allowing him in between your legs.

17. He does not want to introduce you to his wife

Signs a married man likes you but is hiding it is when does not want to introduce you to his wife. Even if there are work events where he can invite a plus one, he will not come with her. He does not want you to meet her because he still wants to stand a good chance with you. 

If you happen to be around his wife, he will act very serious, he will be a completely different man around you. He will be very professional; he won’t want to raise her suspicions that he might be attracted to someone else. 

18. His image changes

Another sign that a married man likes you but is hiding it is when he changes his image for you. You will notice that he dresses up differently, and even grooms his hair more often so that he looks neat. He will also make sure that you notice that something about him has changed. 

19. His voice changes

A study led by Stirling University looked at 110 men and found that men talk in a more sing-songy voice when chatting to someone they think is hot. But they also talk more deeply when talking to an attractive woman.

So if you have noticed that his voice changes when talking to you it is a body language of a man secretly in love with you.

20. He mirrors you

When a man is falling for you or has strong feelings for you, his actions will begin to mirror yours. Mirroring is a way of imitating another person’s body language. Look for mirroring in the following ways:

• He might begin to use the phrases that you use 
• Or imitates some of your expressions
• He crosses his arms just like you

Married coworker crush signs

1. He comes to your desk often

Signs a married coworker has a crush on you is when he always finds an excuse to talk to you. 

At first, he might come to you to discuss work stuff or ask you questions about a field that you are knowledgeable about. 

As time goes by, he will take interest in your personal life. He will ask you about your past weekend or your plans for the upcoming weekend. 

Even if it seems like he is talking to your other colleagues who are next to you, you will notice that he stands right next to your desk and his attention is mainly on you. 

And sometimes he even gets onto your personal space, something a person with no intentions would not do.

2. He contacts you even after hours

An unmissable sign a married coworker has a crush on you is when he starts contacting you or checking up on you even after hours. 

At first, his texts or calls might be work-related, but later you might have generic and even flirty chats. 

The conversations you will have with him will no longer feel like you are talking to a colleague but a friend or even someone that has a crush on you. 

He may even ask to meet up with you after work or during the weekend, which is a sign that he likes you.

3. He gives you a gift on your birthday

When a married man buys you a gift, it can be difficult to tell if he likes you or is just being friendly. 

But here is how to verify:

Did he also buy birthday gifts for his other coworkers? If the answer is no, he is buying because he has a crush on you.

4. He is jealous when he sees you with other men

Signs a married coworker has a crush on is when he gets jealous when he sees you with other men.

Does it seem like his behavior changes towards you when he sees you entertaining other men? Does he suddenly become too quiet, distant, or even give you the silent treatment? 

Or does he make nasty comments like “I did not want to disturb you while you were with your boyfriend?” 

If it gets to him when he sees you with other men, then that’s a married coworker crush signs.

Read more: How to ignore someone to get their attention

5. He flirts with you

One of the obvious signs a married coworker has a crush on you is when he flirts with you. But just check if he is only flirting with you because there are guys who flirt with most women.

When he is talking to you, most of the conversations end up being sexual. Even when he is texting you, he will send flirty texts and plenty of love emoticons. 

Sometimes it will be the way he stares at you, he will stare at you for so long to a point where it feels like he is lusting after you.

When talking to you, he will look for an opportunity to touch you. He might even initiate that you greet him or say goodbye with a hug.

When a coworker is flirting with you, he will even give you a pet name like beautiful, baby, sweety, etc. 

You want to check out these 13 signs a guy is really turned on by you.

How do you know if a married man hides his feelings for you?

When a married man hides his feelings for you, you can still see it in his actions. He will be nervous around you, checks up on you often, stares at you a lot, and even compliment you often. Sometimes he might even mirror your actions.

How do you know if a married man is into you?

When a married man is into you he will do the following:

1. He will compliment you often
2. He is curious about your love life
3. He initiates texts
4. He calls you even after hours
5. He wants to spend time with you
6. He gives you gifts
7. He is nervous around you
8. He can’t say no to you
9. Your friends have told you that he likes you
10. He does not talk about his marriage when with you

How do you know if a married man likes you more than a friend?

When a married man likes you more than a friend, he will do the following:

1. He won’t want his wife to know about the friendship
2. He gets jealous when he sees you with other guys
3. He flirts with you
4. He sends flirty texts
5. He tells you if he was not married he would ask you out
6. He likes to make similarities between the two of you

Signs a married man cares for you

When a married man cares for you he will check up on you often. He will also be your number one supporter and when you are going through a difficult period you can count on him to support you. Sometimes you even wonder if he has a wife because he is always there for you. 

Signs a married man is sexually attracted to you

1. He licks his lips or bites them

When a married man is sexually attracted to you, he might unconsciously lick his lips or bite his lips

2. He touches you

Signs a married man is sexually attracted to you is when he asks for a hug and then he prolongs the hug with the hope that you will also feel the sexual tension. 

Or he might reach out and touch your hands, pat your back, and if he sees something on your hair or clothes he will reach out and remove it. 

He might even let his elbow bump against your arm when he is laughing with you or let his legs touch against yours when you are sitting next to him. Some men even touch your thighs with their hands, and I find that extreme.

3. His voice deepens

A study led by Stirling University looked at 110 men and found that men talk in a more sing-songy voice when chatting to someone they think is hot. But they also talk more deeply when talking to an attractive woman. 

So if you have noticed that his voice changes when talking to you it is a sign that a married man is sexually attracted to you. 

4. He leans towards you

When a married man likes you, he will lean towards you often. If you sit in an office cubicle, he will enter your personal space. He might even just speak in a lower voice just so that he can have an excuse to be closer to you when you cannot hear him. 

5. He seems nervous around you

His heart might even beat very fast, he can have sweaty palms and he can even be fidgety. If he also seems to fidget his chair meaning that he cannot sit still for too long, it can be a sign that he is turned on. 

An article in Glamour.com makes reference to Cox’s theory where she says “He’ll also do it if he’s getting sexually excited and is trying to hide or calm down a potential erection.” 

6. He wants to spend alone time with you

When a married man wants to spend more time with you, invite you over to his place or comes over to your place, or take you out on a date or vacation, it is a clear sign that he is sexually attracted to you. He knows that if you can have some alone time with him, you might not be able to resist the sexual urge.

Read more: 24 signs he has strong feelings for you

7. He compliments your physical appearance

Watch out for how often he compliments you and how he says it. If he always seems to compliment your physical appearance, it can be a sign a married man likes you but is hiding it 

If a married man makes compliments like “wow you are really hot” or “you are too sexy”, or “I can’t keep my eyes off you”, it is a sign a married man is sexually attracted to you. 

8. He sends flirty texts

When a married man is sexually attracted to you, he will be quick to respond to your texts. He might even try to flirt with you through text and send flirty emojis. And he might even mention that you are his type of girl. Or he might even joke about you two getting it on, which can help him assess if he stands a chance with you or not. 

Signs a married man likes you through text

1. He initiates texts

Signs a married man likes you through text is when he is the one to initiate conversations. He will be the first person to say “hi”, “how are you?” “How was your day?” “what are you doing?” 

2. He responds to your texts instantly

When you text him, within a couple of minutes he’s already replied. 

The speed of his replies is one of the signs he caught feelings through text.

3. He always seems happy to hear from you

If you text him first, you can see the excitement in his response. It is like he has been waiting to hear from you. 

4. He does not give short replies

When a married man likes you through text, he will not give you one-word answers. He won’t just type one-word responses like “K” “gud” “ok” “yep” “idk”, he will try to type full sentences.

5. He uses emojis to express himself

When a married man likes you through text, he will use emojis. He might blow you a kiss, send plenty of smiles, show a blushing face, send you a hug or a heart. 

6. He compliments you a lot

Signs a married man likes you but is hiding it over text is when he compliments you often. So even through text, you will notice his compliments.

If you post something on your status, he will comment and pass a compliment.

He will compliment how you think or the kind of advice you give him. He might even say he loves talking to you.

7. He asks you a lot of questions

When a guy likes you, he will be curious and inquisitive of you. 

He might ask you about your interests, ask if you are in a relationship, what you get up, how your day was, etc because he wants to get to know you better.

He might even say that he likes similar things too (just to impress you so you think you have common interests) 

8. He wants to do more than texting

When a married man likes you, he will do more than texting. He will want to call you, or even do a video call. He will also want to meet up with you. 

9. He calls you by a pet name

If he uses pet names such as ‘sweetie’ or ‘babe’ or ‘beautiful’ it can be a sign a married man likes you through text even if he is hiding it. 

Someone who does not like you will not be comfortable using these flirty pet names on you. 

10. He shares things with you

When he sees a meme that he likes or a funny video or tweet, he will share it with you because he wants you to know or to laugh as well. 

It is not easy to forward certain things to a random person or someone who does not hold a special place in your heart.