Undeniable Signs He Caught Feelings But Is Scared
Are you in a friendship and wondering if your guy friend is being friendly or it is signs he caught feelings? Or you have been chatting to a guy online or through text and want to know if he is falling for you?
Maybe you are in a no-strings-attached relationship with an acquaintance, or a colleague, or a married man and you have developed feelings for him and are wondering if he feels the same way about you.
Sometimes men are not vocal and find it difficult to confess their feelings because they respect you or they fear rejection. However, when a man loves you, he cannot fight his feelings forever, his actions will speak louder than words.
This article will help you confirm your suspicions and show you what to look out for in a man who is catching feelings for you.
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Signs he caught feelings
1. He is always calling to check up on you
When a guy has caught feelings, he will always want to hear your voice. He calls you often to check up on you and discuss a bunch of sweet nothings with you. He will want to know how your day or weekend was and what you got up to.
2. He is protective of you
One of the signs a man has caught feelings is when he becomes protective of you. He will be concerned about your safety. He might no longer want you to go to a certain place by yourself because it is notorious for being unsafe.
Or he might suggest that you sleepover at his place so that you do not have to drive late at night.
And if you happen to be bullied in any way, he will be your knight in the shining armor.
3. He tells you that he misses you
He will tell you that he misses you if he goes for days without talking to you, texting you, or seeing you.
If he had not caught feelings for you, he would not care if he does not talk to you or hear from you. And sometimes it takes a bit of courage for a man to admit that he misses you.
4. He wants to spend time with you
When a man is falling for you, he will want to spend time with you. If you do not stay miles apart, he will want to see you weekly if not daily.
He will also be interested in knowing what your plans are in advance so that he can schedule a meeting with you.
He seems satisfied by being around you, even if there is no physical intimacy.
5. He shows concern when you do not talk to him
When he cannot get hold of you, he worries. He will tell you that he was worried when you did not respond to him. He might even ask you why you did not respond and he will apologise if he has offended you in any way.
It is like he is becoming possessive of you and it is easy to mistake it as signs of someone who wants to control you.
6. His friends and family know about you
When a man has caught feelings, he will want to show you off to his friends and family. His friends already know so much about you because he cannot resist talking about you in their presence.
Or the friends might have also noticed that he spends less time with them and more with you and jokingly complain to you that they hardly see him.
7. He wants you to prioritise him
If he was a friend with benefits, he will expect you to put him first. He might even beg you to cancel your other plans so that he can be with you.
8. He gives you gifts
When it is your birthday, he will give you a gift and even on other special occasions like Valentine’s Day. Or he can randomly give you a gift, bring you nice goodies, or buy you flowers. He even remembers the things you said you like and buys them for you.
9. He values your opinion
You have become his go-to person when he wants advice or a listening ear. He will want your opinion when he has to choose an outfit, or which tv to buy, or what gift he can buy for his sister, or how to handle conflict at work.
He will want to run most things past you. Before he makes the next move, it is you that he will consult. When a man wants you to help him in terms of making the right decision, it is a sign that he caught feelings.
10. He notices everything about you
When a man has caught feelings he will notice the finer details about you. He will notice when you are not your normal bubbly self, or when you are wearing something you have never worn before. Or when you have done your hair or your nails.
And to show that he has noticed, he will compliment you for the changes.
11. He is interested in knowing more about you
He has become interested in knowing more about you. He seems to ask you a lot of questions about your personal life. He will ask questions like:
- What you like and don’t like
- What is a dealbreaker for you
- What are your goals and aspirations
- What you do at work
- Your hobbies
- Who are your friends
- How is your family setup
- Are you seeing someone
12. He talks of a future with you
He is forward-looking and already discussing future events with you. He talks about the idea of you moving in with him or relocating so that he can be closer to you.
Sometimes he talks about the car he desires for you and even the beautiful and smart kids he will have with you. Or he can say statements like one day when we are rich.
13. He does what you ask him to do
When a man has strong feelings for you, there is nothing he will not do for you. If you want to do an outdoor activity with him, he will agree. If you want him to do you a favor he will do it. He can even be your handyman or try to find someone to do the job for you.
Whenever you ask him to come and see you, he always comes which is a sign he has strong feelings for you because he never wants to disappoint you.
14. He cares about your wellbeing
He is always there for you. If you are not feeling well, he will constantly check up on you. Or if you tell him something is wrong with your family member, he will show concern because he always wants to see you happy.
When you are going through a difficult time in your life and need emotional support, he is there for you.
15. He shows you public affection
When a man has caught feelings, he will want to take you out, he will not hide you from people. He will want to touch you, hold your hands, tell you sweet words, and even take a stroll with you.
16. He takes selfies with you
When he is with you, he might enjoy taking pictures of you with his phone or even taking selfies. If a man wants to keep memories of you together, it is a good sign that he caught feelings.
17. He tells you first
You are the first person he runs to when he has news. When something has made him angry, it is you he confides in. Or when he is excited about a message or call that he received, it is you that he tells first.
18. He changes for you
When a man has caught feelings, there is something about him that he might consciously or subconsciously change. He might mimic the way that you talk. Or he can change his dress code or haircut.
If he is not a churchgoer, he might even offer to go to church with you. If he does something that seems out of character, it is a sign that he has caught feelings for you.
19. He has told you that he likes you
A definite sign he caught feelings is when he has told you he likes you and wants to have a relationship with you.
Read more: Signs he wants you to be his girlfriend soon
Signs he caught feelings through text
1. He initiates conversations
One of the early signs that he has caught feelings through text is when he is the first person to initiate conversations. He will be the first person to say “hi”, “how are you?” “How was your day?” and other topics that he wants you to discuss so that he can have an excuse to keep talking to you.
2. He responds to your texts instantly
When you text him, he is very quick to respond. If he does not respond timely, it means there was a valid reason, but he always responds when he gets a chance.
3. He does not give one-word answers
When a man has caught feelings through text, he will not give you one-word answers. He will put in some effort when texting you. You are even able to read his emotions from the way he answers you.
4. He lets you know when he is not available
When he expects to be busy or away from his phone for a while, he will let you know so that you are not surprised by his inconsistency in texting you. He even updates you on his movements.
5. He uses emojis to express himself
When chatting with you he will use emojis. He might blow you a kiss, send plenty of smiles, show a blushing face, send you a hug or a heart. If he is disappointed, he might even text a sad emoji.
6. He texts you even when he is with other people
If he happens to be at an event or he has gone out with the guys, he will still get a chance to text you and have a decent conversation with you. He might be physically present elsewhere, but his mind is with you.
Signs he caught feelings online
1. He texts you to login so he can talk to you
One of the signs he caught feelings online is when he always wants to communicate with you. If you happen to be offline he will text you and tell you that he is online can he talk to you.
He also avails himself if you want to talk to him at a time when he is not online.
2. He is always genuinely happy to talk to you
When a man has strong feelings for you, he will always be happy to talk to you and this joy can also be noticed through an online conversation. If it is a video call, you will see his smile and if it is through text you will see it in his responses.
3. He is making plans to see you in person
When a man has caught feelings online, he will be making tangible plans to meet up with you in person. He will even give an expected timeframe of when it should happen.
You want to be careful of someone who asks you for money to come and see you. If a man is serious about you, he will make a plan.
4. His friends and family know about you
He has already told you that his friends and family know about you. And sometimes if they happen to be with him during your video call, they do come and greet you. If he has already introduced you to them it is a good sign he has caught feelings online.
5. He replies instantly
When he has caught feelings online, he will reply to you instantly. Even if he is still receiving messages from other people, it is you that he prioritizes.
6. You know his daily schedule
When he has caught feelings online, he will include you in his schedule. You will know everything that he gets up to and he will be interested in your schedule. He always keeps you up to date with his life and you feel like you know him even if you are a distance apart.
7. He becomes jealous when you mention other guys
If you tell him that you are going to meet your guy friends, he might display an element of jealousy. When a man has caught feelings, he does not want to share you with other men. He might even text you when you are with them or even make sarcastic comments
8. He sends you a gift
Even if it can be an online relationship, there are certain gestures that can happen physically. On your birthday or any random day, he can still send you a gift or arrange with a local florist company to deliver flowers to you. Or he can even send you money to spoil yourself.
You want to be careful of an online relationship that moves too fast or seems too perfect or the guy is telling you problems that require money because it can be a red flag.
Signs he has romantic feelings for you
1. He texts you a lot
One of the signs that a guy has romantic feelings for you is when he texts you a lot. He will text you good morning, text you during the day and even text you good night. Someone who does not have romantic feelings for you will not be consistent in his communication.
2. He wants to take you out on a date
If a guy wants to take you out on a date it is a sign he has romantic feelings for you. I have learned that there is no free lunch, so it is never a friendly gesture when a man pays for your food.
3. He gives you gifts on special occasions
If a man remembers your birthday and he buys you a gift, chances are that he has romantic feelings for you. Most guys do not buy their friends gifts; so if you have received a gift from him, chances are that there is more to it.
4. He finds an excuse to talk to you
When a man has developed romantic feelings for you, he will always want to talk to you. He might call you often or always pass by where you are so that he can greet you and initiate a conversation with you.
5. He flirts with you
When a man flirts with you by calling you beautiful names, telling you sweet words, complimenting your appearance, and touching you, it is obvious signs he has romantic feelings for you.
He can also be flirting with you through text, or online by telling you sweet words and sending you love emojis.
Some might even go to the extent of asking you what you are wearing or saying things like how I wish you were here next to me.
However, you should be careful of such flirting because it is not really a sign that he likes you enough to be his girlfriend, he only wants to sleep with you.
6. He is interested in your personal life
If he shows interest in your personal life, wants to know if you are in a relationship, what you like, whom you stay with, etc, it can be a sign he has romantic feelings for you. If he didn’t, he would not care if you are seeing anyone or not.
When a man always seems to compliment you way more than the other guys that have surrounded you, chances are that he likes you.
He will notice every small change in you and compliment you for it. Sometimes he will even compliment your intelligence, the way you speak, and even your views on certain issues.
7. He is nervous around you
Some guys when they are with a woman they like, they become nervous. His voice might be shaky and seem to make a lot of mistakes when he is around you. Or if you are eating out he might accidentally spill food or a drink on his clothes.
8. He pays attention to you
We know that men are not great listeners. But if a man is willing to listen to you and even remembers what you have said to him then it is a sign he has romantic feelings for you.
Signs he has strong feelings for you
- He loves spending time with you
- He checks up on you often
- His friends and family know about you
- He attends events with you
- He calls you first when he has news
- He smiles a lot around you
- He talks about the future and follows through
- He has told you he feels strongly about you
- He does favours for you
- He respects you
- He makes promises and keeps them
Read more: 24 signs he has strong feelings for you
Signs he is slowly falling for you
1. He stares at you a lot
If you always catch him looking at you, it is a sign he is falling for you. He admires you that is why he cannot resist looking at you.
2. He checks up on you often
If a man used to contact you once in three months but he now contacts you weekly or almost daily, it is a sign he is falling for you. When he calls you, he just wants to find out how you are, what you have been up to, and check your plans so that maybe he can also suggest a meeting.
3. He is making compromises for you
If he is doing things he does not like but he agrees to do them because he knows that it will make you happy, it is a definite sign he is falling for you. He might not like adventure trips but he will agree when you ask for it.
4. He notices every change in you
He pays careful attention to you and when you have changed your hairstyle, or wearing a new outfit, or changed the colour of your nails, he notices and compliments you.
5. He is very protective of you
When he is slowly falling for you he is concerned about your safety. After a date, he will walk you to your car and insist that you call him when you have arrived home safely.
If he notices suspicious people or he feels it is unsafe, he might offer to drive behind you.
6. He is jealous of your male friends
One of the obvious signs he is falling for you is when he becomes jealous at the sight of you with other men or when he hears you praising other men.
When he behaves strangely after he has seen you with a guy or gives you silent treatment or badmouths other guys or makes sarcastic comments, then he is definitely jealous.
7. He cares about your wellbeing
He always asks if you are okay and wants to know the cause of your unhappiness so that he can make you feel better. If you tell him that you are sick, he will show you tender care and come check up on you or call you often and even bring you food.
If you are not fine as a result of something that happened at work he will listen to you and tell you soothing words.
8. He wants you to notice him on social media
If he views, likes, and comments on most of your social media posts, it is a sign that he is slowly falling you.
Read more: 30 Signs he wants you to notice him
9. He is no longer interested in other girls
When a man is slowly falling for you, he will no longer be interested in other girls no matter how much attention they give him. He is more fulfilled when he spends his time with you than with them.
You might even notice that he ignores their calls when he is with you or he might even have told you that since you came into his life he is no longer interested in other women.
Read more: 25 Signs an older man is falling in love with you
Signs he is fighting his feelings for you
- He gives you attention and withdraws it
- He is jealous when he sees you with other men
- He wants to know more about you
- He notices every detail about you
- He is protective of you
- He cannot say no to you
- He can’t stay angry at you for too long
- He wants you to notice him
FAQ
How long does it take a guy to catch feelings
According to a study conducted by YouGov for eHarmony it takes men only 88 days to tell their partner they love them. Moreover, 39 percent of men say ‘I love you’ within the first month of seeing someone.
How do you know a guy is hiding his feelings
When a guy is hiding his feelings for you, you will see it through his actions. He might not have said he likes you, but he will always seem happy to be around you. He can’t say no to you, he notices everything about and he gets jealous when you are with other men
Read more: 25 Signs he loves you secretly
How do you tell if a guy is confused about his feelings for you
When a guy is confused about his feelings for you he will give you mixed signals. One week he will text you so much, praise you but the following week he might ignore you altogether. He rarely does anything nice for you and he does not want to introduce you to his close circle or be seen in public spaces with you.
If a man is confused about his feelings for you, it means you are not the right woman for him. A man is never confused about his true feelings for a woman he truly loves. When a man gives you mixed signals, it can be clear signs he is not into you.
Mind body green relationships provides good examples of interpreting mixed signals in relationships
Read more: 14 Signs he pretends to love you
