24 Clear Signs He Has Strong Feelings For You
I have been in many instances where I completely missed the signs that a guy has strong feelings for me. I would think that he is just a great and kind friend who just enjoyed my company, but I guess I was naïve. By the time he decided to confess his feelings, it made the friendship awkward because I had already friend-zoned him or I had moved on to someone else who was quicker in confessing his feelings.
Sometimes you can like someone, but you do not know if he also feels the same way about you because he has not voiced it out yet. And because we have been taught that a man should make the first move, it becomes difficult to know if you should wait for him or just move on.
People can already be telling you that the guy has strong feelings for you, but you are telling yourself that it is impossible because he has never expressed his feelings and maybe you do not like him in a romantic way. Maybe he is already in a relationship or you are also in a relationship with someone else and think that there is no way he has feelings for you.
Or the relationship is in its early stages or he might have already made a move on you, but you want to assess if he really loves you or he is just using you.
Whatever your reasons are for wanting to know the signs he has strong feelings for you, this article will guide you.
The following topics are covered in this article and you can easily skip to your preferred section
24 Signs he has strong feelings for you
Why is it hard for guys to express their feelings
How long does it take a guy to express his feelings
How do guys express their feelings
How can you tell if a man likes a woman?
Signs he caught feelings for you
Signs a player has feelings for you
Signs he wants to confess his feelings
24 Signs he has strong feelings for you
1. He loves spending time with you
One of the clear signs he has strong feelings for you is when he enjoys spending time with you. When he is not busy, he wants to be in your presence. He will often call to ask if he can come and see you or if you can come and see him.
The visit is not even a sexual visit but you can spend hours together. When you are with him you just chill, talk and enjoy each other’s company. You even watch tv shows together or even do your work around him if you are working from home. He even offers to help you with your tasks. He might even order takeouts for you or he decides to cook.
When he has strong feelings for you, he will take you out for drinks or lunch and you will also do other great activities together. You can clearly see that this guy loves spending time with you because if he did not have a connection with you, he would have disappeared from your life.
2. He checks up on you often
When a guy checks up on you often, whether through call or text, it is a sign that he has strong feelings for you. Sometimes he will call you and not because he has news, but he just wants to hear your voice. Some calls will be long while others will be short because might find it hard to express his feelings.
If you happen to mention that you are going for an interview or writing an exam, he will even call you or text you to wish you luck. After writing he might even call you to find out how you wrote.
3. His friends and family know about you
He has already told his friends and family about you. When he finally introduces you to them, you feel like they already know so much about you. They know about your achievements, what you do and so much more. They already treat you like you are part of the family and they seem excited to be around you.
If you happen to be unwell his family member can even contact you and wish you a speedy recovery. You already feel part of the family or crew and you know that if you can disappoint him or break his heart, many people will be disappointed.
When his family knows you it can even be a great sign that he wants to marry you.
4. He attends important events with you
He invites you to be his plus-one when he attends events. He invites you to weddings, events with friends, work events, family gatherings, etc. He does not mind being seen in public with you. Sometimes he even invites you to go on special vacations with him.
5. He is always available to meet up with you
When you want to meet up with him, he is always available for you. You do not have to set up an appointment in advance and neither does he make excuses. Even if he is too busy, he will squeeze his time to meet up with you.
6. He calls you first when he has news
You feel like you are the key person in his life because he runs to you first when there is something happening in his life. If he gets a promotion, you are the first person he tells. Or if something major is happening in his life or his family, he will inform you. Or if he has bought a car, he will want to show it to you first.
He is comfortable gossiping with you or even sharing confidential information with you. If he does all these things, it is obvious signs he has strong feelings for you even if he has not told you.
7. He does favours for you
He is your go to guy when you need anything. If what you need is within his reach, you know that he will do it for you. He never lets you down and neither does he complain when you ask him for favours. He never says no to your requests; he always wants to exercise his heroism around you. And if someone else can ask for the same favour, he makes excuses.
8. He respects you
He respects you as a person and even respects your decisions and beliefs. And though he has very strong feelings for you, he will not take advantage of you when you are in your vulnerable state. He might feel sexually attracted to you, but he will not force to sleep with you when you are drunk or when you are at his place; he respects boundaries.
9. Passionate hugs and kisses
If you are already in a sort of a relationship with him but you still doubt if he has strong feelings for you, the way he shows you affection can be a good sign. If he wants long hugs and kisses you passionately, and wants to hold your hands, it is a sign he has strong feelings for you.
10. He cannot stay angry at you for too long
If you have offended him, rejected him or made him angry in any way, he cannot stay angry at you for too long. The moment you reach out to him all is forgiven or even if he promises to keep his distance, he finds himself reaching out to you again. If there is nothing that can keep him away from you, it is a clear sign he has strong feelings for you.
11. He jokingly says that you make a nice couple
If you are not yet dating but he jokes about being a couple or he tells people that you are his woman, it is a sign that he has strong feelings for you. He might be scared to be direct because he first wants to assess if you feel the same way about him.
He also likes pointing out the similarities between you and him and even telling you that other people think you can be a great couple.
12. He distances himself from other girls and people when in your presence
He makes you feel like you are the most important person in his life. He gives you undivided attention when you are with him. Even if there can be a multitude of women flocking to him, his eyes are only set on you. You might not be the prettiest, but he gives you the most attention.
Even if he can be around his friends or family, he will spend most of his time being around you.
13. He smiles a lot around you
When he is around you he smiles a lot even if he naturally has a serious or intimidating face. He is always very happy to see you or hear from you. Even if you are communicating through call or text, you can see that he is genuinely happy to be talking to you.
14. He talks about the future and follows through
He talks about your future together, or even makes statements like “one day when we are successful this is what we will do.” He has made promises and he has already fulfilled some of them. If in the first month of dating he told you that you will be his wife, months later he will shock you with a proposal.
15. He knows that you are in a relationship, but he can’t keep his distance
A guy who has strong feelings for you will not completely disappear out of your life although he knows that you are romantically involved with someone else. He will be that friend that you can depend on and whenever you need him, he will be available for you. He still hopes and believes that one day you will be together, even if it is not now.
16. He is not in a serious relationship
He is not in a serious relationship, because it is you that he is pursuing. And even when he is in a relationship, he still treats you like his main girl; he makes plenty of time for you. He rather lie to his girlfriend so that he can please you, which is a clear sign he has strong feelings for you. You know that if you can date him, he will easily let the others go.
17. He does not talk about his other relationships
When a man has strong feelings for you, he will not mention his other relationships because it might ruin his chances of being with you. So he will avoid talking about other women to you. Or he might do the opposite and complain about them when he is with you. He will tell you that he cannot find someone who is like you.
18. He lends you his precious possessions
When a man has strong feelings for you, he will not mind lending to you things that are close to his heart. He might even borrow you his car, or give you keys to his apartment or borrow you his gadgets if he has extra. And he will expect nothing in return for his kindness.
19. He has told you that he feels strongly about you
If he has told you numerous times about how he feels about you, then it is a definite sign he has strong feelings for you. He might have even told you that if it was possible to turn off the feelings he would have already done so, but he can’t.
20. He tries to impress you
He will sometimes do things that he is not comfortable with, but he does it because he wants to impress you. He might not be a church guy but if you ask him to come to church with you, he will agree. Or he might be an introvert and if you invite him to hang out with you and your friends he might agree.
Or if you do not like his fashion taste, he might change it so that he can impress you. If you notice that a guy is changing for you or trying out new things, then it is signs he has strong feelings for you.
21. You know so much about him
If a man shares most details about his life, his family and tells you things he has never told to other people, then it is a sign that he has strong feelings for you. He wants to be open and honest with you and he feels like he can be himself around you. He can even share embarrassing details of his childhood, or his family setup and the experiences that he went through.
22. He supports you
If you know that you can count on him through thick and thin, then he is your man. He is there for you during happy and sad days. He wants to see you happy. If there is something that you are battling with, he will try to find you assistance. And he believes so much in your goals and dreams and encourages you to pursue them.
When you are hosting an event that is related to your career or passion, he makes means to come and support you, no matter how expensive or time-consuming the event is. That is also how I noticed that my guy had strong feelings for me because he came to support my book launch that was happening very far from where he stayed.
23. He updates you about his movements and daily happenings
When a man has strong feelings for you he will let you into his life. He will update you about almost everything. What time he goes to work, who he hangs out with, what his boss might have said, what he ate, what he will be busy with when he gets home etc.
24. You know his bank card pin
Some men do not mind sharing their bank card pin with a woman they like because they already see a future with her. So if a guy has already shared the pin to his main card, then it is a sign that he has strong feelings for you. My guy shared his bank card pin within the first month of dating and that shocked me.
Read more: Signs he pretends to love you
FAQ
Why is it hard for guys to express their feelings
From a young age men are not encouraged to express their feelings. They then grow up thinking that expressing their feelings or allowing themselves to be vulnerable is a sign of weakness. Sometimes when they express their feelings they get laughed at by their friends and other people.
Sometimes they find it hard to express their feelings because they fear rejection. They are scared to be rejected by the woman they like so they rather not open up or act on their true feelings.
How do guys express their feelings
Some guys are not able to express their feelings through words so you might never hear them say words like “I like you” or “I love you.” Some men will show you how the feel through these actions:
1. Presence
Some guys will use presence to express their feelings. They will always want to spend time with you and be there for you whenever you need them. It is even easy to mistake these love signs with signs of a great friend.
2. Gifts
Other guys will express how they feel about you by giving you gifts or spending on you. So they might give you thoughtful gifts occasionally or even on special days.
3. Service
Some guys will constantly offer you their services as a way of expressing how they feel about you. They might help with fixing your car, help with an assignment, moving boxes or even collecting something for you. Some might even cook for you or make you a cup of tea.
4. Touching
Guys express how they feel through touch. He will want to hold you, hug you and kiss you as a sign that he has feelings for you.
5. The way they behave around you
Some men blush or become nervous when they are next to a lady that they like. If he does not seem too confident when he is around you, or tries to make jokes or tries too hard to seem perfect, it can be a sign that he likes you. And you might have noticed that he is constantly staring at you.
6. Compliments
Sometimes men use compliments as a way of showing you how they feel. He might tell you that you are way too beautiful, or he loves how you smile or the way you talk to people, or how you make him feel when is around you.
How long does it take for a guy to catch feelings
According to a 2013 survey conducted by YouGov it takes men an average of 88 days to say I love you while it takes women 134 days. It is also worth noting that some guys can catch feelings the moment that they lay their eyes on a woman, which is called love at first sight. While other men can think that they are in love while they are just infatuated and after sleeping with a woman they lose interest. So the short answer to this question is it depends.
How can you tell if a man likes a woman?
Some of the signs that a man likes a woman is when he flirts with her, compliments her often, checks up on her often, spends time and money on her and also agree to do favours for her.
Read more: Signs a man is pursuing you
Signs he caught feelings for you
1. He always wants to be around you
If a man suddenly wants to always be around you, wants you to spend weekends with him, do activities together, asks you to move in with him then it is signs that he caught feelings for you. He seems to spend less time with his family and even asks you to cancel the plans that you had with other people so that he can be with you.
2. He worries when you do not answer his calls
When a man starts checking up on you often and worries if you ignore his calls, then it is a sign that he has caught feelings for you
3. He complains when you do not check up on him
If he complains that you do not check up on him, it is a sign that he has caught feelings for you.
4. He is jealous when he sees you with other men
If he seems jealous when he sees you giving other men attention, or even tries to talk bad about them, it is a sign that he has caught feelings for you.
5. He talks about his future with you
When a man talks about you in his future and wants to include you in his plans, it is a sure sign he has caught feelings for you.
Signs a player has feelings for you
The right question to ask when it comes to players is how do you know if the feelings he has for you are genuine because players are good at faking it. They do not mind pursuing you for so long then after getting what they want they leave.
In most cases, you will only know if a player has real feelings for you if after he has slept with you, he still sticks around and acts like an available boyfriend.
You will also notice that he ignores his phone a lot because it is you that he wants, he no longer gives attention to other women or make excuses when you want to see him.
He might even give you keys to his apartment so that you can come in at anytime or he even has an open phone policy with you.
He will talk about the future with you and also keep to his promises. He will try by all means to win your trust.
If he was never the type to post his girlfriends on asocial media, when he has genuine feelings for you he will post you. Or if he never introduced his other girls to his family, when he is serious about you he will introduce you to them.
Signs he wants to confess his feelings
When he wants to confess his feelings, he will show many of the signs that he has strong feelings for you. Additionally, he will also seem like he wants to say something to you, but he restrains himself. Or sometimes he will call you and seems like he has something to tell you, but he ends up saying that he was just checking up on you.
He can even suggest to take you out, but the mood will determine if he confesses or not.
