Signs He Loves You Secretly

Are you wondering if your guy friend or your colleague might be secretly in love with you? Do you want to confirm it without raising any suspicion? Then you are at the right place because this article will show you sure signs he loves you secretly.

Some men are not expressive and knowing if he loves you or not can help you plan your next move. The reason why some men love secretly is that they are still observing you, and trying to win you over at the same time. Other men are secretive about their feelings for fear of being rejected. 

When a man loves you, you will see it through his actions. But sometimes these actions can easily be mistaken for a guy who is too friendly or too kind. 

You want to read these signs carefully because sometimes his silence can mean that he is not interested in you in that way or does not see a future with you, but he does not want to offend you by telling you directly.

In this article, the following is covered:

• 25 Signs he loves you secretly
• 5 odd signs that he loves you
• How can you tell if he loves you deeply
• Signs a married man secretly loves you
• How to test a guy to see if he really loves you

25 Signs he loves you secretly

1. He constantly checks up on you

One of the clear signs that he loves you secretly is the frequency of the chats that he has with you. Check his patterns when it comes to the following:

• How often does he text you? 
• How often does he call you?
• How often does he pay you a visit or come to where you are at?

If your answer is almost daily to any one of the above questions, it is a clear sign that he likes you more than a friend.

2. He wants to spend time with you

When a man loves you, he will spend a significant amount of time with you. He will always find an excuse to hang out with you. 

If he is your colleague or your schoolmate and you have doubts about him liking you, a great indicator will be that he still wants to spend time with you even after the project has run its course. He still wants to meet up with you outside of working hours. 

A guy who likes you will even begin to hang around your chillout spots so that he can see you often. If you go to the same gym, he will even change his timeslot so that it can match with yours.

If you use the same public transport, he will always want to sit next to you. Or if happen to be in the same room, he will choose to sit next to you even if his friends are around.

3. He wants you to notice him.

When a man loves you, he will show you signs that he wants you to notice him. If you are a group of friends or a team of colleagues, he will single you out and come speak to you most of the time. He will even change the way that he talks or even become neater for you. i.e he might groom more often or buy new clothes.

Also, be careful because it can also be signs of someone who is a narcissist because such a person loves attention.

4. He is always happy to see you

When a man is falling in love with you, he will always be happy to see you. He will have a certain glow and smile that you cannot miss. He cannot keep a serious face when he is around you; it is like seeing you brightens up his day. 

5. He is always happy to hear from you

A man who likes you will seem genuinely happy to hear from you when you call him. He enjoys hearing your voice and he is happy when you also notice him and give him attention. Even when you talk through text, you will see that he looks forward to your texts and appreciates them.

6. He is quick to respond to your call and texts

When a man is into you, he will answer all your calls and texts almost instantly. If you cannot get hold of him, it means that he was busy, but when he is free, he will definitely return the call and respond to your texts. 

When you have to chase a guy, it may be a sign that he is not into you. Someone who loves you will always make your communication with him a priority. 

When you want a man to be serious about you, it is important not to leave more than two missed calls or send other texts while he has not responded to the previous ones.

7. He gets jealous when you give other men attention

He is not happy when he sees you with other men, although he knows that you are not dating. He acts like a jealous boyfriend when you mention other guys in his presence. 

You will notice that he is jealous through his comments about the other guys or he might try to keep his distance after he has seen you with a guy. Such behaviour can be a great giveaway that he loves you secretly because it is human nature to get jealous when you see someone that you love with someone else. 

8. He notices everything about you

Because he pays so much attention to you, he notices when something has changed in your image, behaviour, or patterns. He will notice if you have changed your hairstyle, if you are wearing a new dress or if you have done your makeup differently. And when he spots it, he will let you know by complimenting you.

If you are constantly posting online and you stop, he will notice. If you are not at your usual spot, he will also notice. He will also notice if you are happy or sad. 

When a man notices every small change, it is signs he is falling in love with you or loves you secretly because men pay less attention.

9. He views and likes all your posts

When a man likes you, he will follow you on social media and he will constantly engage with you. When you post, he will be one of the first people to view, like, and post a comment. 

However, some men will not want you to see that they are following you or they might not want the general public to see their comments. So they might not engage much on your posts although they like you.

Read: Signs he wants you to notice him

10. He wants to celebrate special moments with you

He is already treating you as his girlfriend. He wants to spend his special days like his birthday with you. He also invites you when he wants to celebrate his achievements like passing an exam or getting a job or signing a contract etc. If a man does such without formalizing the relationship, it is signs he loves you secretly 

11.  He buys you gifts as a sign he loves you secretly

When a man likes you, he will show it by buying you gifts. He might buy you a special gift on your birthday without you requesting it. And sometimes when he goes somewhere, he might bring you a souvenir. 

He might even get you a Christmas gift or even Valentine’s day gift. When a guy does such things, it is a sign that he secretly loves you because guys normally do not do thoughtful gestures for women they do not like.

12. He supports you

When a man likes you, he will offer you both emotional and physical support. If you happen to go through a family crisis like a funeral, he will be there for you. Even if you’ve had a bad day at work, you know that you can confide in him.

If there is a project that you are doing or a product that you are selling, he will support you and even help you find more clients. He supports your dreams, and he encourages you to go on.

13. He is always available for you

When you call him you always find him. And when you want to meet up with him, he avails himself; he does not come up with excuses. If a man is always available for you, it is a good sign that he loves you secretly. 

When a man is not into you, he will ignore you and only want to meet up with you when he wants to sleep with you or when he is bored.

14. His friends know about you

When a man likes a woman, he will normally tell his friend first before he makes a move on her. If his friends already seem to know so much about you like your name, occupation, achievements, it is a good sign he has strong feelings for you.

15. He shares intimate details of his life with you

He will open up to you about his life experiences including the deepest things that he normally does not share with his friends or other people. He will tell you about his upbringing, his family issues, his work environment, his past relationships, and even things that are confidential. 

When a man is comfortable opening up to you and being vulnerable around you, it is one of the signs he loves you secretly.

16. Your opinion matters to him

When a man likes you, he will want to consult with you hear your views. Before he decides on which car to buy, or what gifts he should get for his mom or sibling, he will ask for your recommendations. He will also first come to you when he needs advice or a second opinion on certain matters.

17. You are the first person he calls when he has news

There is that first person that you always call when you have bad news or even good news. Some people call their partners first, while other people call their parents.

Who does he call first when he has news? It might be news of being admitted to the college of choice or winning a competition, or passing an exam or getting a job or it can even be bad news like being involved in an accident or being fired. 

If you are the first or second person that he calls when he has news, it means that you are very important to him and he probably likes you more than a friend.

18. He does everything that you want him to do

When a man loves you, he will try not to disappoint you. If a man always does everything that you ask him to do, it is a good sign that he loves you even without saying it. When you ask him for any kind of help, be it financial help or for him to offer physical services like driving you somewhere or help with carrying heavy items, he is always there to offer his assistance.

19. He complains when you ignore him

When a man likes you, he will complain when you are not giving him attention. He will complain when you do not pick up his calls or do not respond to his texts. If he thinks that you are angry at him, he will want to know so that he can make amends and get back into your good books. 

When a man is not that serious about you, he will easily give up on you; but when he loves you he will make follow-ups. 

20. He spies on you

When a man likes you, he will do his research on you. He will ask people about you and also check out your profile and pictures on social media. He will have a secret obsession with you and be up to date with what is happening in your life.

Sometimes he might not react to your posts, but you might notice that he has been checking you out. Also, other people might have told you that he has been asking about you. 

21. He invites you to attend events with him

He will often ask you what your plans are for the evening or the weekend in advance. He will want to attend certain events with you or even take you out on dates without referencing that it is a date. He might even invite you to attend some of his family events or even attend weddings and other functions as his plus one. If he is a church guy, he will invite you to come to his church. 

22. He keeps his promises

When a man loves you, he will not want to disappoint you. When he says that he will do something for you, he will do it. When he has promised to come and see you or help you with a task, he will make good on his word.

23.  He remembers what you have told him

A man who wants you will be attentive to you. He will remember things that you said a while back like important dates or your preferences in terms of food and other things. If you have allergies he will also remember them. Men are normally not great listeners, but if he remembers the finer details, it is a sign that he secretly loves you.

24. He defends you

When a man is in love with you, he disregards other people’s opinions of you. Even if other people do not like you or say negative things about you, he will defend you and choose to still stick with you. For instance, there might be an embarrassing video circulating of you, but he will still check up on you and want to hang out with you. If a man takes your side, it is one of the signs he secretly loves you.

25. He asks you too many questions about your personal life

When a man likes you, he will want to know you better. He will show interest in your personal life. He will want to know if you are in a relationship, about your family, your hobbies, aspirations, fears, your birthdate, etc. 

When a man goes beyond flirting with you to wanting to have a real conversation with you, it is a sure sign that he loves you secretly.

FAQ

5 odd signs that he loves you

1. He is nervous around you

When a man likes you, he might behave strangely around you. He might even seem nervous because he is trying to impress you. It is like going for an interview, you want the interview panel to like you, but you are automatically nervous. 

2. He does not want to sleep with you

Another odd sign that he loves you is that the relationship might move at a slow pace. When you are at his place, or you are drunk, he will not take advantage of you. He will not force you to be intimate with him until you are ready. Guys normally move fast but in this case, he might move slow. 

3. He is a bit distant

When a guy loves you but thinks you might reject him, he will try to fight his feelings for you by keeping his distance. He thinks that if he blocks you or does not see you, he might get over you. But be careful, it can also be a sign that he is not into you.

4. He wants you to notice him

An odd sign that he loves you is when he behaves strangely so that you can notice him. He will follow you on social media, but he might make contradictory comments. Or when you look pretty and expect a compliment, he might say quite the opposite. 

When in public, he will try to be too loud or too mean to other people just so you can notice him. However, you need to be careful of such behaviour because it can be a sign that he is a narcissist.

5. He tries to make you jealous

Another odd sign that he loves you is when he tries to make you jealous. He will flirt with other women so that you can be jealous, or send you images of him with other women.

However, someone who truly loves you would not want to hurt you and you should not regard such a sign as a sign of true love or a man who is serious about you.

Signs a married man secretly loves you

When it comes to a married man you will have to be careful because many of them are serial cheaters. They will pretend to love you so that they can have free access to sleep with you. 

The most definite sign that a married man loves you is when he leaves his wife for you, but here are some of the subtle signs a married man secretly loves you:

• He makes you a priority, he is always available when you need him
• His friends and family know about you
• His wife and kids knows about you

It is important to read signs a married man secretly loves you in conjunction with signs a married man is using you.

Read more: Signs a married man is in love with you

How can you tell if he loves you deeply

1. You are his priority

When a man loves you deeply, he will make you his priority. You will come first before anyone else including his friends, family, and work. He does not want to disappoint you, he rather disappoint other people.

2. He has introduced you to his family

Most guys do not like introducing a lady to their family, especially parents until they are certain that they want to commit to her. If a man has already introduced you to his family as his lover or woman, it is a sign that he loves you deeply. 

3. He makes time for you

Another way that you can tell if a man loves you deeply is through his availability for you. If he always wants to be around you, and whenever you want to see him he always avails himself, it is a sign he loves you deeply.

4. He is single for you

When a man has officially left his wife for you, it is a sign that he loves you deeply. Or when he has cut ties with other women so that he can be with you, it is also a sign he loves you.

5. He mimics you

When a man loves you, he will consciously or subconsciously mimic your behaviour. He might start to enjoy your type of music, prefer eating what you eat, do the same hobbies as you and share the same views as you. 

Read: Signs an older man is falling in love with you

3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you

When a man is falling in love with you, he will do the following:

1. He loves spending time with you

He wants to be around you. If he cannot be with you, he will call you or text you often.

2. Talks about the future

His talks about the future will include you. If he talks of going on vacation with you the following year it can be a sign that it will be a long-term relationship. Or when he sees a couple with kids, and he says that it will be you guys in the future, then it is a sign he is falling in love with you.

3. He will be jealous when you are around other guys

When a man is in love with you, he will no longer be comfortable at the sight of you entertaining other guys or giving your guy friends too much attention. He will become jealous of them.

How to test a guy to see if he really loves you

You can test a guy to see if he likes you by doing the following:

1. Perform an intimacy test

If you tell him that there can be no physical intimacy, will he still want to see you? If he still wants to be with you even when there is no intimacy then he really loves you.

2. Suggest he introduces you to his close circle

Ask him that you want to meet his family, especially his mom. If he agrees it is a sign that he really loves you. 

3. Suggest that you want to introduce him to your close circle

How does he feel about the idea of meeting your friends and family? And if he agrees how does he behave around them? Does he try to put in some effort so that he can make a good impression to them? If he does then it is a sign he really loves you.

4. Ask him about his future intentions with you

How does he react when you talk about the future? Does he sound convincing in his responses or he just brushes you off or ignore you? If he confidently tells you that he will marry you then he has real love for you.

Read more: 10 Guaranteed signs he wants to marry you soon

5. Availability test

Test his availability. If he can be with his friends and you tell him that you have an emergency, will he leave them and come to you? If he is always available for you then it is a sign he really loves you.

How do you know if a guy loves you but is hiding it

You will see it through his actions when a guy loves you but is hiding it. He will be too nice to you. He will always want to impress you and he is always there to show you support. A guy who loves you will always want to be around you. 

How do you know if a guy loves you without saying it

When a guy loves you, he will act the part. He will shower you with presents and presence. Receiving gifts without receiving attention is not enough. He will spend most of his time with you. 

He will also treat you like you are his girlfriend and make you his plus one at events and even report his movements to you. A clear sign he loves you is when he becomes jealous when he sees you with other men or talk about other men in his presence. However, assess the level of jealousy because it can be early warning signs of a controlling boyfriend. 

Signs he loves you when making love

S*x is just s*x to most men, it is not their symbol of love. A man can be in love with you yet during lovemaking he does not invest his time in foreplay, or even last longer. Do not base signs that he loves you on how he behaves during lovemaking, base it on that he gives you attention, and makes you a priority. According to PsychCentral, men use s*x for comfort, connection, affirmation, and infidelity.