Many women are bitter because they have been lied to or deserted by men they thought were going to be their husbands. They have sacrificed their dreams, had kids for them, supported them financially, emotionally, and physically, only to be thrown out like a piece of trash. It is important to spot if the signs he wants to marry you exist in the relationship before committing yourself further.

How long does it take a man to know he wants to marry you?

According to an article on Up Journey, research indicates that on average it takes a man 6 months to know if he wants to marry you. A man can already know from the second date if he will marry you but wants to get to know you better first and also give you an opportunity to be interested in him.

A man knows if he is never going to marry you, but can continue being in a relationship with you for so many years, while he is still searching for the one he wants to marry. Many women have invested their lives in men who don’t have intentions of marrying them, and yet they are still hopeful. And the same man, if he finds the right woman, he might even marry her within three months.

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That is why it is very important to spot the critical signs that he wants to marry you before wasting crucial time on someone who does not see a future with you.

What a man wants in a woman he wants to marry

For a man to choose you as the woman that he wants to marry is pure grace. There is only so much you can do to affect his choice. Even if you can worship the ground he walks on, do everything in your power to please him, and treat him like a king, he might still not marry you. But if he is set on marrying you, even if you can’t cook or do any domestic duties, it will not stop him from marrying you.

Men have different preferences and different attraction points. What attracts a man to you can even be something that you hate about yourself e.g. your huge curves but that can be an attraction point for him.  Before a man sees your character, he sees your appearance. It means that your appearance should be something he can be able to live with.

Some men are into women who are darker while some prefer women who are lighter in complexion. Other men prefer taller women while others prefer shorter women. Some prefer thick-bodied women over skinny women. So there is only so much that you can do about your appearance to attract marriage because most of it is beyond your control.

Some men prefer women who are independent, who won’t be a burden to them, while other men prefer women who will totally depend on them.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder that is why a man will not find his friend’s wife attractive or his wife’s friend as his type and would not even marry her even if she is the last woman on earth.

However, after marriage, all men want the same thing. They all want respect, someone to build a home with, and sex.

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10 Signs he want to marry you

1. He has introduced you to his family

One of the signs that a man wants to marry you is when he has introduced you to his family and not the other way round. If you have introduced a man to your family it means absolutely nothing, two other women might have also introduced him to their parents.

Most men are not comfortable with introducing a woman that they are not sure of to their parents. They want to avoid always introducing different women because they find it disrespectful, and they don’t want their family suffering from attachment issues over a woman that they are not planning to marry.

When my husband introduced me to his parents, that was the day I was sure that he wants to marry me. He had met my parents before, but it still took a while before I met his parents. And I also found out that I was the very first lady to be introduced to his parents.

If he has already introduced you, then it might be a clear sign that he wants you to be part of his family. However, if a man stays with his family and you always meet up at his home and even do sleepovers, it might be tricky. You might have met his family, but how many other women also come to visit him at his parent’s house?

2. He consults you or informs you on every decision he makes

Another sign that he wants to marry you is when he asks for your opinion when he is about to make a purchase or has to make a decision. When buying major items like furniture, house, cellphone or car he will consult you. He even wants to go shopping with you so that you can help him choose.

He wants to hear your opinion before he makes that final decision because he knows that it will impact your future together. Also, it minimizes having to change a lot of things when you eventually stay together, because it will be things that you have helped him choose or things you were informed of.

3. He wants to spend most of his time with you

When a man wants to marry you he will spend most of his time with you. He will be in your company more than the company of his friends and family. He wants to spend quality time with you because he loves being in your presence. And he can even suggest that you extend your visit or move in with him just so that he can always see your face.  

4. He is available for you

Another sign that he wants to marry you is when he is always available for you. When you want to see him or need his assistance he will be available. You don’t only meet up with him on his terms or when it is convenient for him. You also feel very confident that he is your man because you can count on him.

Be careful of a man who is available only at certain times because it can be a sign that you are dating a married man or that he is not serious about you.

5. The relationship is beyond just sex

When you are with him, he makes you feel loved and appreciated. You do not feel like he is with you only when he wants sex or when he is bored.  He is even with you just when you need to talk, or he needs to talk.

Your man does not mind going into public spaces with you and holding you the way you want to be held. He is interested in knowing about you, your interests, your goals, your fears, your family, etc. You feel a deep connection with him because he is vulnerable to you, he is open to you about his life and his plans.

6. You are his plus one at events

Another sign he want to marry you is when he invites you to most if not all events that he has to attend with a plus one. You are his plus-one when he attends weddings, barbecues, work year-end functions, family events, birthday celebrations. Another sign he want to marry you is when he wants you to attend his church with him.

7. He includes you in his talks about the future

If in your conversations he talks about we, our future house, when we have money, our kids running around, it might be a sign that he sees a future with you and wants to marry you.

Or when you pass by a certain neighborhood he will say “ I can’t wait for us to live in such a house” instead of “I can’t wait to live in such a house.” During the conversations, you feature in his future.

8. He gives you keys to his apartment

When a man wants to marry you he will even give you the keys to his apartment so that you can be able to come in at any time. He even insists that you should leave some of your belongings behind since his place has become your second home. He can even suggest that you stay with him on a full-time basis so that you can be able to save money for the wedding.

9. He has already told you that one day he will marry you

If he has already told you that one day he will put a ring on that finger, or he will make you his wife then it is a clear sign that he wants to marry you. If you are African, he might have told you that he will send his uncles to your house, which is a sign that he wants to marry you. Men are not comfortable with uttering words of commitment, so if they happen to say them, it means they want to marry you.

10. He won’t suggest abortion if you happen to fall pregnant

If you tell him that you might be pregnant how is his reaction? Does he want you to do an abortion or does he say it means we should get married or life just continues as normal?

Some men won’t suggest abortion, but they might still not marry you after having a baby. So before you fall pregnant, find out what his intentions are. Does he ever speak of marriage or he hates the idea of marriage? You don’t want to give him kids only for him to marry someone else.

Read more: 12 Ways to make him commit to a serious relationship with you

How do you know if he will never marry you?

Sometimes the signs are very clear that he will never marry you. Here are 8 signs he will never marry you:

1. He is already married

If you are dating a married man, forget about him marrying you. In most instances, a married man will never leave his wife. Even if he tells you that he is not happy in the marriage, he is only with her for the kids or he is in the process of divorce, know that he is just lying. He loves your company, but not enough to his existing marriage for you. A married man only wants to use you.

2. You feel like you are the one forcing the relationship

Another sign that he will never marry you is if there are signs that he is not serious about you. You are the one who is constantly begging for his attention. He hardly wants to spend time with you or even call you. If you feel like you are the one putting in the effort into the relationship and he is not putting in any, then it is a clear sign that he will never marry you.

Read more: 17 Signs he’s not into you

3. He’s already said that he does not want to get married

If a man has told you that he does not want to get married, it is a polite way of saying that he does not want to get married to you. No matter what you can do to impress him, such a man will never marry you. Believe his words because it is the most definite sign that he will never marry you.

4. He has said he is not ready for marriage

Another sign that a man will never marry you is if he tells you that he is not ready for marriage. When a man says that he is not ready for marriage, what he means is that he is still searching. When he is eventually ready he will get married, but it might not be with you.

5. He does not want you to meet his family and friends

If a man does not want you to meet his family and friends, then it is a sign that he will not marry you. He does not want you to meet them because he has already introduced someone else, or he knows that you are just a fling.

6. He does not give you a straight answer when you ask about marriage

Another sign that he will never marry you is when he gets angry when you ask him when he plans to marry you. Or he always changes the topic or comes up with excuses or makes you feel like you are not yet wife material.

7. He does not want to meet your family

If you want to introduce your man to your family but he refuses, then it is a sign that he will never marry you. He knows that he will not be able to answer some of the questions that your family will ask and he is not willing to lie.

8. He doesn’t want to be seen in public with you

Another sign that he will never marry you is when he does not want you seen together in public. He always wants to meet with you behind closed doors or in secluded areas. And the reason might be he is not proud to have you as his girlfriend or you are the woman he is cheating with.

How do you know if he will ever propose

Men are very scared of commitment and even if they know that they want to marry you, they can still delay the process. Not every woman will land a proposal on a silver platter, some women have to push their men in the right direction. If I did not push my man, I do not think we would have gotten married within two years of dating.

If you do not tell him that you expect a proposal, you will not receive it anytime soon. And based on his reaction, you will be able to determine if he will ever propose or not.

Read more: Boyfriend not proposing? How to make him propose in 5 simple steps

Sometimes a man will not want to get married if he is not financially ready, but that should not stop him from proposing. Some men are financially steady, yet they do not propose because they are afraid of commitment or because they have not yet found the one.

You will know if a man will ever propose based on the level of seriousness towards your relationship. If he is not already married and wants to spend most of his time with you and you have met his friends and family and he has already hinted that he sees you as his wife or mother of his kids, then it is a sign that he will propose.