12 Glaring Signs a married man cares for you and how to act on it

You may be reading this article because you want to validate if those are signs a married man cares for you or not, so that you can act on the way forward. These signs are important because you might have fallen for him, or you just want to know if it is really signs that a married is in love with you so that you can block him.  

Whatever your reasons are for wanting to know the signs, it is important to note that most relationships with married men don’t have great endings. Most married men never leave their wives, no matter how much they can tell you that they love you, it is you that they want and they don’t love their wives anymore.

So your question might be why does a married man show you signs that he cares for you or signs he is pursuing you if he still loves his wife? The answer is simple. Most married men cheat, they love their bread buttered on both sides, and they also just love a good hunt.

In this article we will discuss the following:

• 12 signs a married man cares for you; and
• Signs a married man is using you; and
• How to stop a married man; and
• Frequently asked questions

12 Signs a married man cares for you

1. He has told you he cares for you

One of the clear signs that a married man cares for you is when he has said it. He has already said words like “I care for you”, or “if only I’d met you earlier”, or “I really like you” or “you are not like any of the women I know” or even “we make a great team”.

2. He checks up on you often

Another sign that a married man cares for you is when he checks up on you often. Sometimes he will contact you to discuss work, but you will realise that it is just an excuse to communicate with you. When he does not see you at the office or the usual spot, he will notice and show concern. He will call or text to check if everything is still fine.

3. He compliments you often

When a married man seems to compliment you more than all the other people around you, then it can be a sign that he cares for you. He notices every small change about you and he makes sure that he does not forget to compliment you for it.

He does not let the great efforts that you put towards your image or work go unnoticed. When you have changed your hairstyle or wear a beautiful outfit, he will clearly bring it to your attention. When you have made a presentation at work, he’ll tell you that it was a great presentation.

4. He shows interest in your life

A married man will show so much interest in your life when he cares for you. He will give you so much attention, more than what you receive from your boyfriend and even other people.

He will want to know your background, your goals, interests and dislikes and even your hobbies. If there is a project that you are pursuing, he will even be your greatest supporter.

5. He wants to know about your love life

When a married man cares for you he will be interested in knowing about your love life. He might ask you directly if you are in a relationship or he might just say your boyfriend is lucky to have someone like you, so that he can hear you say that you are single.

If you are in a relationship, he might want to know the state of your relationship and make remarks like, if he was your boyfriend he would have married you already.

6. He acts different around you

Another sign that a married man cares for you is that he will begin to act differently around you. Since he is trying to impress you, he might become palpitated, dress up differently or even groom more often. And sometimes he might even ask if you have noticed the changes and what you think of them.

7. You know you can count on him

When a married man cares for you, his hero instinct will be ignited. He loves opportunities where he can come to your aid, and he tries not to disappoint. If you have issues with your car, he can even assist. He will even mention that if you ever need help you can contact him.

8. He buys you gifts

One of the other signs that a married man cares for you is when he buys you gifts. If you have told him that your birthday is coming up, he might take you out and even surprise you with a gift. If you work together, he will take you out on lunch dates.

9. He values your opinion

When a married man cares for you, he will seek your opinion before making decisions. He will come to you for advice and even consult you before making certain decisions or purchases.

10. He downplays his marriage

If you ask him about his wife, he avoids the topic altogether or makes up a bad lie about the state of his marriage. He does not want you to see his wife as a threat to your prospective relationship.

11. He initiates subtle touching

When talking to you, you will notice that sometimes his elbow will touch your upper arm or he might ask to hold your hands so that he check out your fingers. Or he might even begin to initiate hugging when you meet.

12. The way he looks at you

He stares at you and sometimes it makes you feel uncomfortable because you will feel his eyes following you. When you look in his direction you will notice that he has been staring at you, and he might just smile and wave, or instantly turn away and act as if he was not checking you out.

Signs a married man is using you

When a married man cares for you or pursues you, know that it is not meant for your benefit but for his benefit. Men are very selfish in nature. Although you may feel like you are benefiting more than him from the arrangement because you are getting attention and gaining financially, he might just be using you, and here are some of the signs:

• He is still with his wife but he does not want you to date other people
• He expects you to always be available but he is only avaiable when it suits him
• He does not want you to call him at certain times
• He meets with you behind closed doors where people cannot see you together
• You cannot make the relationship public or post about it
• If you happen to fall pregnant, he will suggest an abortion
• He does not introduce you to important people in his life
• He spends important days with his family

You can read the signs a married man is using you in detail here

In love with a married man how to stop it

If you are in love with a married man and you are serious about ending it, this is what you must do:

1. Have a long term view of your life

• Why do you have to date a married man out of all the single men on earth? Do you have a low self-esteem that you can struggle to find someone else?
• Are you happy to block out opportunities of having a good man just because of a selfish married man?
• Are you willing to raise an innocent child in a complex environment?
• If you are also to get married, how would you feel about another woman being in a relationship with your husband?
• If a married man can leave his wife for you, can you trust him enough to be faithful to you?
• If you are benefiting from him financially, are you willing to be financially reliant on him all your life? What will happen if he passes on?

2. Stop entertaining him

If a married man is showing signs he cares for you, and you are not yet in a relationship with him, you will need to stop entertaining him. Keep things strictly professional with him if you are colleagues.

3. Break off the relationship

If you are in love with a married man and you want to stop, you will have to tell him that it is over. He should no longer contact you.

4. Break all contact

He will obviously contact you to convince you to take him back. He will tell you how much he loves you and can’t afford to lose you. Don’t call him or respond to him. If you can, block him. If you can change the locks or move to a different place where he cannot come as he wishes, do so.

5. Keep busy

After breaking off the relationship with him you will notice that you feel a void, because he used to keep your schedule busy and you were constantly receiving attention from someone. Find a hobby, read books, join a club, do anything that can give you a sense of purpose.  

Read more: How to move on from someone you love

Frequently asked questions

How do I know if a married man really loves me?

It can be easy to mistaken signs of a married man who wants to sleep with you as signs that a married man really loves you.  When a married man has not shown you his divorce decree, don’t believe a single word he says, or fall for any of his act. When a married man really loves you, he will legally and physically leave his wife for you.

How do you tell if a married man wants to sleep with you?

There is a very high chance that if a married man pursues you or show signs that he cares for you, the ultimate goal is to sleep with you. Men only want two things from a woman; namely respect and to sleep with her.

Some of the signs that a married man wants to sleep with you are when he flirts with you, touches you, lustfully glares at you, checks up on you often, buys you gifts, supports you financially, gives you attention but still does not leave his wife.

Signs a married man is jealous

When a married man is jealous, he will among other signs, give you silent treatment, act differently when he sees you with male friends, discourage other guys who try to pursue you, pass negative comments that are uncalled for, become easily irritated or angry, and only wants you to himself. But never mistaken his jealousy for true love.