Why A Woman Must Not Love More In A Relationship

Xiren February 14, 2021 no Comments

See these two below questions from 2 different women

Miss A asks “I am 25 old and I have been dating a guy for three years and he wants to marry me. He is very loving and takes great care of me. He is even paying for the course that I am studying and also gave me money to start a business. I can’t really fault him on anything, but I just don’t feel him. I am not in love with him. How do I break up with him without hurting his feelings?”

Miss Y asks “I am 32 years and have been in a relationship with my baby daddy for the past 7 years. I have caught him cheating several times and when I confronted him about it he beat me and left me to bleed on the floor. I once even had a miscarriage after he kicked me during an argument. There are times when I have packed my bags and went back home, but I always come back to him after a few days because I love him. I really don’t know what to do because I love him so much.”

What advice would you give to these 2 women? 1^st woman is complaining that she is with a man who loves her very much but she no longer wants to be with him because she does not love him. While the other woman is complaining that her man is constantly mistreating her but she always goes back to him because she loves him.

Why women love where they are not loved

What I have observed is that women are special beings. They find someone who is too loving as boring and have very strong feelings for the one who does not give them attention. They rather leave someone who really loves them to be with a known player. You can’t trust a woman to make a proper judgement when it comes to matters of love.

What women fail to understand is that being in love is a curse if you will not receive the love back. If you always have to complain and justify your actions by saying the words “but I love him” then you should really be concerned. A relationship is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.

I think it is important for people to date more than one partner before deciding commit. If you marry the first person that you date, you won’t know if the person that you are with is good enough, you will always wonder if you cannot be with someone better.

I don’t blame ladies who find good guys boring, they do not appreciate what they have because they have not yet experienced flames and heartbreak from the bad guys. And only after coming out of a toxic relationship will they now want to settle with a partner who has “good guy qualities”

I also don’t blame women who insist on staying with men who are not showing them love because they have either forgotten how it feels to be loved and happy or they have never been with a loving partner.

Should a woman love more in a relationship?

Women were created to be recipients of love and men givers of love and when that order is changed the couple suffers. The woman is unhappy that her man is not showing her love while the man is frustrated that his woman is not submitting to him.

If you don’t believe me refer to the bible in Ephesians 5:22, 25 this is what it says:

²²Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord 
²⁵Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

It never gave instruction for wives to love their husbands, but rather husbands to love their wives. If as a woman you love a man first before he has shown you love, you should be ready for anything.

It is also frustrating for a man to love a woman who does not appreciate his love. Such a woman does not submit despite receiving love. A relationship is only nice if both parties are willing to commit to the relationship and play their role. For a relationship to be healthy and happy there should be a balanced approach.

There are so many men who are dying inside because they love women who are not worthy of their love. And there are also women who are depressed but too deep in love with men who are in love with other women.

10 benefits of being with a partner who loves you more

You are much happier in life.

You feel beautiful: If your partner makes you feel loved you feel beautiful and ready to conquer the world.
The relationship progresses, it doesn’t go around in circles. You don’t have to argue about the same things over and over again.
You glow: Love is a great remedy. If you are happy you are bound to glow

You have high self-esteem: Being with someone who loves you boosts your esteem and confidence
You grow as an individual: If your partner loves you and you don’t chase after them, you have time to focus your energy on developing yourself.
The relationship does not feel like a burden: If you have a partner who loves you more you are able to work as a team.

Less anxious which means you even sleep better not worried about things that can wrong. There is also open communication in the relationship.
You have self-love
You can plan your future because you feel comfortable

10 Signs that you love more in a relationship

You are always the one to apologise even if you are not wrong
You don’t receive attention from your partner, you always have to beg for your partner’s attention
Nothing you do is ever good enough for your partner