What are the signs the dumper wants you back? After being dumped, it is normal to hope that the dumper will come back to their senses and want you back. Many of us have hoped for an ex to come back and certain times it worked while other times it never worked.

When someone dumps you, there is an over 40% chance that they will have the dumper’s regret and want you back, but there is also a high chance that they might not. It is therefore important to be on the lookout for these signs the dumper wants you back so that you do not hold back your life for someone who is not coming back.

An article in Ex Boyfriend Recovery makes mention of two studies, one where 41% of people admitted that they have tried to get back together with an ex and another study by the University of Texas that shows that 65% of college students get back together after the breakup. 

Discover these 23 signs the dumper wants you back but please read them in conjunction with these signs your ex will never come back.

Table of Contents

• Signs the dumper wants you back
• Spiritual signs your ex is coming back
• FAQ
• How To Make Your Ex Regret Losing You
• Final thoughts

Signs the dumper wants you back

1. They have been contacting you

If the dumper has reached out to you more than once after the breakup, that is a sign the dumper wants you back. They regret losing you and are trying to find the right words ask you out or they are trying to assess your mood to see where they stand with you. 

2. They have requested to meet up with you

If your ex who dumped you is now requesting to see you, even if it is just for 5 minutes, it can be a good sign the dumper wants you back. When someone no longer wants you, they will be serious about cutting off all ties. But there is also a chance that your ex might be testing you.

3. They have showed up at your place or even at your workplace

If your ex has showed up at your doorstep or even at your workplace, it is a sign that they are trying to get your attention. They want to make amends. 

4. They have apologised

If your ex has told you how sorry they are for leaving you, that their decision to leave you was childish, it is a clear sign the dumper wants you back.

5. They’ve told you they miss you

If your ex tells you that they miss you, they miss the good old days, it is a sign the dumper wants you back.

6. Your ex has been texting a lot

If your ex has been responding to all your texts or has been initiating texts and coming up with engaging conversations, then it is a sign your ex is becoming interested again.

Sometimes your ex will forward you news updates or memes, but that is still a sign that they have kept your number and they still think about you.

7. You have been talking almost daily

If it seems like you have been communicating almost daily, that is one of the unspoken signs the dumper wants you back because friends don’t talk on a daily basis.

8. They post statuses about love and regret on their social media

If your ex posts words like “Sometimes you don’t know what you have until you lose it” then your ex might be indirectly sending you a message.

9. Your ex gives you gifts

If your ex sends you flowers, gives you gifts on your birthday, valentine’s day, or any random day, it is a sign the dumper cares for you and wants you back.

10. Your ex flirts with you

If your ex is flirting with you, uses sweet pet names on you like babe, beautiful, handsome, sweety, etc, and even uses flirty emojis when texting, tries to charm you, it is a sign the dumper wants you back.

Read more: Body language of a man secretly in love with you

11. Your ex stalks you

If your ex seems like they have been stalking you, it is a clear sign they still love you. Your ex seems to know when you have attended an event, or if there is a milestone that you are celebrating, and he or she will call you or text you to let you know that they know or just to compliment you. Sometimes you might find that your ex is at the same location as you.

Another sign that the dumper wants you back is when they also stalk you on social media. And if you have blocked them, they will use other people or mutual friends to keep them updated on what is happening with you. 

12. Your ex tries to get your attention on social media

If you had blocked your ex, they will try to use most social media platforms to get your attention. They will try to DM you on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, or whichever social media platform you are on. 

If your ex is trying to get your attention on social media by liking all your posts and commenting, and even posting a great life on social media, it is a sign the dumper still loves you.

Read more: Signs he wants you to notice him on social media 

13. Your ex agrees to do favours for you

If you need a favour from your ex, or you want some form of help and they easily agree, then it is a sign that your ex still cares about you. They might even be willing to connect you to a job.

14. Your ex still remembers your special days

If they still remember your special days like your birthday, or anniversary and they call you or text you on the day, then it is a sign they still have feelings for you. If you did not hold a special place in the dumper’s heart, they would act as if they have forgotten about it. 

15. They reminisce about the past

When an ex reminisces about the past events, the places you went together, reminds you of your favorite song, the things you did together, the words you said to them, it is a sign that they miss the relationship and probably regret dumping you. They sometimes might forward you old pictures and ask if you still remember.

16. They have kept the images of you

If your ex tells you that they have kept your images, it is a sign that they are not over you.

When you have dumped someone, it is courtesy to also delete anything that might remind you of them. Because if you have moved on, there is no need to keep old memories, you will create new ones with your current partner. 

17. Your ex is in a relationship, but they still contact you often

If your ex is in a relationship but they still contact you often, or you are one of the first people they call when they are celebrating or something bad has happened, it is also one of the signs that the dumper wants you back.

18. They have told other people that they still love you

If they have confessed to other people that they were stupid for letting you go, then it is a clear sign that they regret dumping you. They have told their friends or your friends or colleagues that they have messed up a good relationship and wish that they could turn back the hands of time.

19. They are jealous when hear you are dating

After your ex sees you with a lady or a man or sees a picture of you with someone else, they comment on it either through call or text. 

If your ex contacts you when they hear that you are in a relationship, it is a sign they are jealous. If your ex cannot hide their jealousy from you, then it is a sign they still have feelings for you.

20. They invite you to events

If your ex tells you about a certain event that they will be attending and they tell you to come through, it is a sign your ex still wants you. If your ex was not interested, they would not want to be in the same space as you.

21. They ask your friends about you

Signs the dumper wants you back is when they ask other people for information about you. They want to find out if you are fine and if you are in a relationship. 

22. They have told you that they love you

What can be a clearer sign than the dumper telling you that they still love you and you were the only person who understood them? If your ex has already told you that they miss you and still love you it is some of the signs the dumper wants you back. 

23. Months after breakup, they want to collect an item at your place

If months after the breakup your ex reaches out to you and tells you that they want to collect an item that was left at your place, it might just be an excuse to see you because they want you back.

Spiritual signs your ex is coming back

There are certain spiritual signs that reveal that your ex coming back because as much as we are physical people, we are also spiritual beings. Things first manifest in the spiritual before taking place in the physical. 

However, exercise caution when reading into spiritual signs because sometimes it can be a coincidence, or your mind playing tricks on you. And even after you have received these signs, it does not mean that it will happen right away. Your ex might only come back months or even years later.

1. You have been having dreams about your ex

If you had moved on from your ex but lately you have been dreaming about him, it is one of the spiritual signs your ex is coming back. Just be careful that the dream is not as a result of you constantly thinking about him.

2. You see their name quite often

If you see the name of your ex often, maybe you see a street name that has your ex’s name, or you now spot someone at the office who has a name like your ex, or your ex’s name just pops out when you are on social media, it is a spiritual sign your ex is coming back.

3. Strangers with the spiritual gift have told you so

If people who do not know you have told you that your ex will come back, then it is a spiritual sign your ex is coming back.

4. You see their number often

If you are always seeing your ex’s number, maybe the last 4 digits of their cell number on a car registration, street address, etc, it can also be a spiritual sign.

5. Just when you were thinking of them, they reach out to you

Have you ever thought of someone and just as you are thinking of them they call or text you? That is can also be a spiritual sign your ex is coming back. 

FAQ

How do you know if a dumper regrets?

When a dumper regrets, they will stay in contact with you. They will call or text often to find out how you are doing. They might even reach out to your closest friends. 

A dumper will even request to meet up with you or just show up where you are. And they might even try to impress you by doing the things that you’ve wanted them to do when you were still in a relationship.

When a dumper regrets their life might also take a turn for the worst, they will have these signs of being miserable.

How long does it take for a dumper to regret?

It can take a dumper anything from a week to a year to regret. Some people can even show signs that they regret dumping you after a year while they started regretting earlier but they just acted strong. 

Sometimes dumpers only regret after being dumped by their new partners.

After a breakup, some partners regret hurting you, but it does not always mean that they want you back. They might want to be on good terms with you just so that it can be easy for them to still sleep with you or so that you are civil towards each other.

Sometimes if there is an opportunity to move on, do not wait on an ex because there is a great chance that you will break up again even after getting back together.  

Read more: Signs he knows he messed up but is scared to admit

How do you know if an ex is not over you?

When your ex is not over you, they will contact you. They will call or text to find out how you are doing. They will be jealous when you are in a new relationship and they might be in many rebound relationships. 

How can you tell if your ex is thinking about you?

If your ex still calls, emails or texts you, it is a clear sign your ex is thinking about you. 

How To Make Your Ex Regret Losing You

The best way to make your ex regret losing you is by simply showing your ex that you don’t need them. Look happy, beautiful, and successful and if you can, heal and move on. And when your ex sees that you are happier without them, they will come and beg you.

Read more: How to get his attention when he ignores you

Final thoughts

Some breakups happen for a reason so you want to be careful before waiting for a dumper to come back into your life. If you are considering giving your ex a second chance, please also read this article on 6 things to consider before getting back with your ex.