Have you been dumped by someone that you loved so much and you are wondering if they regret their decision and if one day in the near future they will ask for love back? What are the clear signs your ex regrets dumping you and how long will it take them to regret it?
Table of Contents
- How long does it take for an ex to regret losing you?
- Signs your ex regrets dumping you
- Signs your ex is miserable
- Signs she regrets losing you
- Signs your ex is testing you
- What make ex regret dumping you
- How do you know if your ex will never come back?
How long does it take for an ex to regret losing you?
It can take anything from a week to a year. Some people can even show signs that they regret losing you after a year but they started regretting before but scared to apologise for hurting you. Sometimes dumpers only regret after being dumped by their new partners.
I once dumped a great guy when an ex came back into the picture. And I only regretted dumping him after I felt lonely because we had broken up again with my ex.
The same ex who made me break up with a good guy, on our very last breakup, I still hoped that he would regret it and we would get back together. However, he was quiet the whole time, did not respond to my texts or even calls.
But it is only after 2-3years that he apologised through a lengthy letter and told me that regrets dumping me. And I was happy to know that he regretted and I got the closure that I needed, although I never went back to him.
In an earlier relationship, my ex dumped me for another woman. He kept on sending me images of the two of them together and even told me that she is prettier than me. And he would often call me just so he could hurt me until I blocked him and eventually changed my number.
He kept stalking me and even reaching out to me on social media, but I chose to ignore him. But there was also a day where he sincerely apologised for hurting me and I discovered later that he is married to the woman that he left me for (so they never broke up even when he was talking to me).
After a breakup, some partners regret hurting you, but it does not always mean that they want you back. They might want to be on good terms with you just so that it can be easy for them to still sleep with you or so that you are civil towards each other.
Sometimes if there is an opportunity to move on, do not wait on an ex because there is a great chance that you will break up again even after getting back together.
Read more: Things to consider before giving your ex another chance
Signs your ex regrets dumping you
1. They still want to meet up with you after the breakup
One of the signs your ex regrets dumping you is when they call you and want to meet up with you. When the dumper still wants to see you, it can be a sign that they regret hurting you and want to make sure that you are fine.
2. They are still in contact with you
If after they have dumped you, they still call you, text you, check up on you, it is a sign that they regret dumping you, unless if you were longtime friends even before you dated.
Also, if they keep you up to date with what is happening in their lives, still contact you when they need advice and even call you when they want to vent, then it is a sign that they regret losing you.
3. They tell you how sorry they are for the breakup
They have told you how sorry they are for breaking up with you, how they have messed up and took your love for granted. If you have already received an apology, then it is one of the signs your ex regrets dumping you.
4. They tell you that they miss you
If your ex tells you that they miss you, they miss the good old days, it is a sign they regret dumping you.
5. They justify why they left you
If your ex is trying to justify why they had to break up with you, maybe they blame the long-distance if you were in a long-distance relationship, or the influence of friends or family, or alcohol, or what you did, then it is a sign that they regret dumping you.
6. They tell you about the issues in their current relationship
If they are telling you that their current partner does not match your level and discussing their relationship issues with you, it is one of the signs your ex regrets dumping you.
7. They stalk you
Another sign that your ex regrets losing you is when he seems to be stalking you. He seems to know when you have attended an event, or if there is a milestone that you are celebrating, and he will call you or text you to let you know that he knows or just to compliment you. Sometimes you might find that he is at the same location as you.
Another sign your ex regrets dumping you is when they constantly spy on you on social media. And if you have blocked them, they will use other people or mutual friends to keep them updated on what is happening with you.
8. He tries to get your attention on social media
If after the breakup you blocked your ex, they will try to use most social media platforms to get your attention. If they try to DM you on Instagram, or Facebook, Twitter or whichever social media platform, it is signs they regret losing you or dumping you.
Read more: Signs he wants you to notice him on social media
9. They agree to do favours for you
If you need a favour from your ex, or you want some form of help and they easily agree, then it is a sign that your ex still cares about you.
10. They still remember your special days
If they still remember your special days like your birthday, or anniversary and they call you or text you on the day, then it is a sign that they regret hurting you. If they did not regret it, they would choose to act as if they have forgotten about it.
11. They talk of past good memories
When an ex reminisces about the past events, the places you went together, reminds you of your favourite song, the things you did together, the words you said to them, it is a sign that they miss the relationship and probably regret dumping you. They sometimes might forward you old pictures and ask if you still remember.
12. They have kept the images of you
If your ex has kept the images of the two of you or your images, it is a sign that they are not over you, and hope that one day you might be together again. Or if they have deleted the images, and ask you to resend them, then it is a sign that he regrets losing you.
When you have dumped someone, it is courtesy to also delete anything that might remind you of them. Because if you have moved on, there is no need to keep old memories, you will create new ones with your current partner.
13. They are in a relationship, but they still contact you often
If your ex is in a relationship but they still contact you often, or you are one of the first people they call when they are celebrating or something bad has happened, it is a sign that they regret dumping you.
14. They drunk call you
If they call you when they are drunk to tell you how much they love you, and how you were the only woman who understood him and loved him truly, then it is a definite sign he regrets dumping you.
15. They have told other people that they still love you
If they have confessed to other people that they were stupid for letting you go or for losing you, then it is a clear sign that they regret dumping you. They have told their friends or your friends or colleagues that they have messed up a good relationship and wish that they could turn back the hands of time.
16. Their life has become miserable
If after the breakup their life has come to a standstill, while when they were with you their life seemed to progress, they surely regret losing you because you had a positive effect on them.
A sign that they might be miserable is when they have lost the glow and become unattractive, or they have become an alcoholic, or they cannot maintain a steady relationship, or they are still not married but have kids with different fathers or mothers.
17. They are not happy when you are in a relationship
When you are in a relationship, they will not be that happy for you. They might even try to discredit the person that you are with so that they can break up with you. Or they might try to mess up the relationship for you by calling you so much and sending texts that make the other person believe that you are still dating your ex.
Signs your ex is miserable
1. They have changed for the worst
If when you were still together, they were disciplined and responsible, but after breaking up they become a junkie, or an alcoholic or they have serious money problems, it is a clear sign that your ex is miserable.
2. They look unattractive
If they no longer look pleasing to the eye because they have neglected their appearance, it can be a sign that they are miserable. It is worth noting that many people gain weight after marriage so weight might not be an indicator of how happy or sad someone is.
3. They can’t keep a relationship
If your ex is always in and out of relationships, always being played or playing others, it is a sign that they are miserable.
4. Other people ask you to check up on your ex
If the family members or friends of your ex are asking you to speak to him because they are worried about him, then your ex is miserable and regrets dumping you.
5. They always want to talk or text you
If you feel like you are being harassed by your ex because they never want to leave you alone and you see the need to even block them, it is a sign that they are miserable.
They are always calling, texting, sending direct messages, and even using different numbers to try and reach you. If they were not miserable, they would not act like a psycho and seem too desperate to reach you.
6. They try to prove to you that they are happy without you
If your ex constantly sends you pictures with their new partner, brag about their relationship or assets, it is a sign that they are miserable. If you are truly happy you will not want to prove it to the next person.
7. They drunk call you
If they call you when they are drunk to pour out their feelings to you, and you know that it is something that they would never say when they are sober, then it is a sign that your ex is miserable.
Signs she regrets losing you
When a woman regrets losing you or feels guilty for hurting you, these are the things that she will do:
1. She will reach out to you
Women are good at cutting ties, especially after they have moved on. But if she tries to reach out to you whether through call or text just to check up on you or to compliment you for your recent achievement, it is a sign she regrets losing you.
2. She still takes your calls
If she still takes your calls or responds to your texts even after the breakup, it can be a sign that she regrets losing you or feels guilty for hurting you. If she did not want to hear from you, she would block you or tell you never to contact her again.
3. She meets up with you
If she asks to meet up with you or when ask to see her she agrees, it is a sign she still has a soft spot for you and even feels guilty for hurting you.
4. She still confides in you
When a woman still treats you like you are her man and confides in you about minor and major matters, it is a sign she regrets losing you.
5. She brings up the good memories
If she brings up the good memories or even sends you images of the two of you, it is signs that she misses what you had and regrets dumping you.
6. She has apologised for leaving you and hurting you
If after she had left you she resurface into your life and tells you that she is sorry, then she really regrets losing you. Women have pride and it is not easy for them to say they are sorry.
7. She gives you a gift
If a woman gives you a gift randomly or she gives you a gift on your birthday, it is a clear sign that she wants you back and she is sorry for dumping you.
8. She wants to be friends
If a woman wants to be your friend after she has left you, it means she feels guilty for hurting you, or she regrets dumping you.
Signs your ex is testing you
According to ex boyfriend recovery, your ex may be testing you because they are curious, on a power trip, or trying to make a big decision involving you.
1. They check up on you
They will contact you in order to find out information about you like if you have moved on, if you still have feelings for them, and if you seem happy or not. Sometimes they might be checking up on you because they want to brag that they have made it in life.
So when they check up on you, it will help them plan their next move. Which might be to get back together with you, or just to use you.
2. They make you jealous
Some exes will directly or indirectly try to make you jealous, and personally, I find it childish. An ex might send you pictures of them with their new partner, or they might post images of their new partner often on social media while they never posted any images of you. Or if you try to contact them, they will give the phone to their partner to answer.
So when they play the jealous test on you, they are trying to get a reaction out of you and the best reaction to give to them is silence. Just ignore them and pretend you are not bothered.
Read more: How to ignore someone you love
3. The flirt with you
Men do not love cutting ties with their exes so that they can have easy access when they want a booty call. A married man once told me that guys just love cheating with their exes. The same also applies to a woman, she knows that she has someone who can take care of her needs when she is single, or on bad terms with her partner.
So if you are the party who is still single, and your ex flirts with you to a point where it feels right to sleep with them, you just want to be careful. Single people agree to sleep with their exes with the hope that the relationship will be rekindled, only to be disappointed.
4. They ignore you
Maybe you have been trying to reach out to your ex so that you can apologise or so that you can find closure, but when you call, they ignore your calls and never get back to you.
Or also when you text they do not respond. Maybe they are ignoring you because you have hurt them or because you also ignored them.
Read more: How to deal with being ignored by someone you love
5. They tell you their issues
Your ex might tell you when they are going through a difficult time like losing their loved one. So your reaction or level of support will enable them to assess if you still care about them.
If after they have told you and they still do not get a reaction from you then they know that the chances of rekindling things are slim.
What make ex regret dumping you
Sometimes people think that when they leave you they are going into greener pastures but they learn the hard way that the world is cruel.
You were the only person that truly loved them for who they are. So when they get dumped or they are not happy in the new relationship, they will regret dumping you.
Also, when you seem to be more attractive because you are successful or because other people want you, it will make your ex regret dumping you. So when your ex realizes that you are thriving without them, that is when they want you even more.
How do you know if your ex will never come back?
- Your ex is already married
- Your ex does not feel jealous when you are with other people
- They have moved to another country and chances of them returning are slim
- They have blocked you for over 6 months or 6 months into the breakup, they are still ignoring you.
- Your ex has already told you to move on
And sometimes even if he does come back, rather put yourself first like your ex has put themselves first. You can’t always be second best and you allow it.
