Signs you are dating a married man are very subtle. I almost fell for a married man’s lies. He told me he only has a child but he was not married. There were red flags but I ignored them and trusted his word over the warning signs. I only found out that he was a married man through his friends who mentioned it in passing and they didn’t know I was his target.
I now know that most married men deny their wives when they are not in their presence. A married man will never come straight to you and say he is married because you will not even give him a chance. He will pursue a relationship with you as if he is single.
If you later find out that he is married, he will formulate one of these lies which women ALWAYS fall for:
“I am in the process of divorcing”
“I no longer love her, we only staying under one roof for the sake of the kids”
“I am unhappy in the marriage”
“She has moved out”
“My wife has passed away”
Many women unknowingly date married men because many of these men don’t wear their rings. And also, there is not much activity on their social media profile to be able to assess their marital status or talk to their close friends.
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Spot these 15 signs that you are dating a married man and save yourself the trouble of being emotionally and physically vested in someone who will never be yours.
1. He works far from his family but visits them regularly
If a man stays full-time with you it can be easy to assume that you are the “main woman”, while he has a wife back at home. One of the red flags is a man who goes home every weekend or month-end to check up on his parents and kids. What he is omitting is that he is also going to check up on his wife.
2. He never invites you over to his house
If the man that you are dating only comes over to your place, or you meet in hotels but he has never brought you over to his house, it can be one of the signs that you are dating a married man. A single man wouldn’t mind you visiting his place at times.
3. He does not answer certain calls in front of you
If he goes out to take “business calls” when with you or he ignores the call altogether, it can be a sign that you are not the only woman in his life.
4. He is not available during certain times
A married man will only meet up with you when it is convenient for him. When you want to see him, he might come up with excuses or agree but only to disappoint you when the time comes. He might only be available to see you in the mornings or in the afternoons when his wife does not expect him to be home. He will never spend the entire night with you unless if he is away on business.
If his wife works far or she works night shifts, he will be available for you. But when she is around, he will make excuses as to why he can’t see you.
5. He does not answer your texts or calls on time
In the evenings he might not answer your calls or respond to your texts because he is with his wife. He will only call you back in the morning when he is at work or in the car driving to work.
6. The ring band line
Married men who wear their rings often will have a ring band mark on their ring finger. Instead of only checking the clothes he is wearing, hold his hand and check his fingers.
7. He never attends or celebrates any special events with you
A married man will never go to weddings with you. He will also not be available on his birthday and Valentine’s day since he will be spending it with his wife. He rather opt for the delivery of your gift, but he will not spend the entire night with you. He will come up with good excuses.
8. He does not accept you on social media
A married man does not want you to know what is happening in his life so he will not accept your friend request or follow request on his social media platforms. He also does not want you to tag him or communicate with his close circle.
9. He pays for everything cash
A married man does not want audit trail so he will use cash to pay for all the activities which he does with you including dates, holidays etc.
10. You meet in secluded places
It might seem romantic when he takes you out to secluded places, where the chances of him bumping into people he knows are low. He wants to meet indoors or far from people who know him.
11. You don’t have much information on him
A man who is married will not talk much about himself. He does not get into much detail about himself, his family, work, or what he gets up to after hours. He wants to minimize the risk of you rocking up at his workplace or home.
12. He saved your number as something else
Call him and check how he saved your number. If he saved you as a guy or didn’t save your number at all, it can be a sign that you are dating a married man.
13. You have never met the most important people in his life
If he does not want you to meet his other friends or family members it can also be one of the signs that you are dating a married man. When you suggest meeting them he will always come up with excuses.
14. He does not want to appear on your pictures
A married man will not want to take selfies with you because you might post the images on social media, and mutual friends might see them.
15. He has more than one phone but won’t give you both numbers
If he has more than one phone but he only gives you one number, it can also be a sign that you are dating a married man. He does not want you contacting both numbers to minimise the risk of being caught by his wife.
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